For many, including me, itâ€™ not a completely happy time of year. All the more reason to gravitate toward the light and the joy and the smiles wherever we can find them. And while Iâ€™m being honest, I cling to my spiritual beliefs this time of the year, and hope you do too.Â
Iâ€™ve got four quick spices to add to your recipe for making a PERFECT Holiday!
Spice #1: Before you do anything, add a healthy amount of â€œATTITUDE.â€ Re-define the word perfect. Let perfect mean something thatâ€™s completeâ€”all by itselfâ€”even with its funky imperfections. Iâ€™m always telling Jan: â€œItâ€™s perfect.â€ That makes her stop fussing with some insignificant detail that no one will notice anywayâ€”like arranging lights on the tree. When I say that, she takes a deep breath and gives herself permission to move on. Â
Â Spice #2: Blend in a teaspoon of â€œRECOGNITION.â€ Once you recognize that the season is a celebration of your religious traditions, or an annual opportunity to open your heart in generosity, then peace gets a chance to replace angst.
Spice #3: Gently stir inÂ â€œHONORINGâ€ of past Christmasâ€™s and people youâ€™ve lost.Â All of us have loved ones on the other side, and if you can, remember them with tenderness and sweetness. Tell a few funny stories about them. Â It took Jan a few years to be happy with memories of her mom who passed on December 19th. Thatâ€™s to be expected. In your own way, make time to honor those memories.
Spice #4: Add a generous helping of â€œCREATIVITY.â€ Keep yourself alive with new ideas, new fun. Do something thatâ€™s out of your normal. Start a new thingâ€¦ and if you do it again next year, youâ€™ve created a new traditionâ€”one that probably fits you PERFECTLY!!! The Mother of Creativity is on your side!Â
Well, gotta go. My Lamborghini is double parked outside! Time to kick back, take a break and add a little spice to my own perfect holiday! Â
Weâ€™ll be dreaming up fun things for us to do at Whalen Voices for next year.