Hello Cool Woman,
I had an interesting dream the other night. In the dream, I was at the kitchen table sitting across from my body and she began to speak to me. This is what she said:
â€œIâ€™ve been meaning to have a chat with you for some time now. I love this life weâ€™re living! I love our relationship and all the people weâ€™ve met, the places weâ€™ve visited, the things weâ€™ve seenâ€”holy molyâ€”even the time those babies shared our space–for nine months, wasn’t it?Â What a ride! Youâ€™re the brains and Iâ€™m the braun; a perfect duoâ€”till death do us part.
â€œBut what I really wantÂ you to consider, is changing the way you talk about me. Iâ€™m sure you donâ€™t know this, but I hear every word and every thought you say and some of it is insulting. It does nothing for my self-trust. Give me a little credit. Iâ€™m not the same as when I was twenty, but I do cart you around, donâ€™t I? You gotta be happy that you can still move with relative ease and you get to do mostÂ of the things youâ€™ve always done.
â€œGive less attention to what the scale says and more on being grateful for what I can do. And then take me out to play. I hate it when you sit at the computer for hours on end. I donâ€™t care what we doâ€”walk, dance, skip, slide; just move, move, move me. Not only will you feel my joy, Iâ€™ll work better for you all the days we are together.
â€œItâ€™s natural to compare me with others, but donâ€™t. Look around. Some of the bodies are shorter, taller, wider, less hairy, but thatâ€™s the way they are. Let them have their own identities with their own shapes, but girlfriend, be loyal to me. Be on my side. You and I have been through this whole life together and Iâ€™m it! I mean, you never get another body.
â€œMaybe youâ€™d remember to speak loving words about me if you gave me a nice name. Something like, Lovely, Precious, Beauty, Hot Stuffâ€”I donâ€™t know, just pick one. That way, when you look in the mirror or catch my reflection on your computer screen, youâ€™ll remember to smile and see who I am and be motivated to feed me healthy stuff and do all the things you know I crave in order to feel good.
â€œItâ€™s you and me, kid. Weâ€™re together for this life, and isnâ€™t it a wild journey? Havenâ€™t I done a pretty good job so far? Unlike you, I donâ€™t last forever, so make me your priority today and every day.â€
And then I woke up. I slid off the bed and walked to the closet to get my slippers and as I passed the mirror and leaned in to inspect my face, I whispered, â€œHello there, Precious.â€ She didnâ€™t say a word, but smiled back.
Maybe it was more of a wake-up call than a dream after all. What do you think?
May self-trust build your confidence,