When I published You are the Perfect Age, I didnâ€™t expect the profound changes it would bring to those who wrote and read the book. Well, first of all, I hadnâ€™t realized that asking four simple questions of women stepping into different decades would produce such a rich mixture of perspectives. Yet, how could it not? As we age, we do not just get wrinklyâ€”good things happen to us. I like to call it wisdom.
Lee was turning 70 at the time, and before answering any of my questions, she decided to have a chat with her therapist. As the septuagenarian of the book, her answers were insightful, hopeful and filled with wisdom. The whole process led her to a big decision. She realized that if she remained in Phoenix, it would be â€œsame old, same old.â€ Is that what she wanted for herself? No. So she sold her home and moved to Tucson. Her move was truly the truest and most peaceful choice sheâ€™d made. Freedom felt great.Â
Jenn, my hair stylist,Â has been enthusiastic about my book, and upon turning 40, she answered the four questions herself. During an appointment a year ago, (this was after I continued to hound her about what women were saying) she told me that her new five year goal was to become a therapist for women her age. Responsibilities of the past had stood in her way, but today, sheâ€™s feeling young again in the lively atmosphere of college.Â Jenn’s words from a recent blog.Â https://whalenvoices.com/skip-the-therapist-be-happy-with-a-trusted-stylist/
Noel planned to write one chapter of cooperative book. Â She went through my normal discovery process and as I casually observed what she said about her life, a lightbulb came on. She realized that she could build her business as a really great photographerâ€”yet her art was calling to her. The reflection of writing was the elixir she needed to open to her heartâ€™s desire. Â
From my personal perspective, with each 100th birthday celebration I attend, I rethink my own age. Life expectancy and my own expectancy for myself is an ever changing bar. Headed up! Blaming age for how I am denies bigger, better possibilities.
So when someone your age says, â€œWeâ€™re old.â€ Be sure to encourage them write about their life to discover that we are all THE PERFECT AGE.Â
I’ve got a new class I’m exited to offer. I call it The Perfect Age Story Card Workshop, and it’s a fast, fun way to get you on the road to reflect and write about your life. Let me know you’re interested!
Jan at 623.466.5067Â or [email protected]Â